Since DeadlineConn would send deadline updates directly upstream,
it would race with Read/Write operations. The stdlib will perform a read,
but do an async SetReadDeadLine(unix(1)) to cancel the Read in
`abortPendingRead`. In this case, the Read may override the
deadline intended to cancel the read.
Stop updating deadlines if a deadline in the past is seen and when Close is called.
A mutex now protects all upstream deadline calls to avoid races.
This should fix the short-term buildup of...
```
365 @ 0x44112e 0x4756b9 0x475699 0x483525 0x732286 0x737407 0x73816b 0x479601
# 0x475698 sync.runtime_notifyListWait+0x138 runtime/sema.go:569
# 0x483524 sync.(*Cond).Wait+0x84 sync/cond.go:70
# 0x732285 net/http.(*connReader).abortPendingRead+0xa5 net/http/server.go:729
# 0x737406 net/http.(*response).finishRequest+0x86 net/http/server.go:1676
# 0x73816a net/http.(*conn).serve+0x62a net/http/server.go:2050
```
AFAICT Only affects internode calls that create a connection (non-grid).
Klaus Post
Harshavardhana