store the cache in-memory instead of disks to avoid large
write amplifications for list heavy workloads, store in
memory instead and let it auto expire.
When searching the caches don't copy the ids, instead inline the loop.
```
Benchmark_bucketMetacache_findCache-32 19200 63490 ns/op 8303 B/op 5 allocs/op
Benchmark_bucketMetacache_findCache-32 20338 58609 ns/op 111 B/op 4 allocs/op
```
Add a reasonable, but still the simplistic benchmark.
Bonus - make nicer zero alloc logging
