Improve object reuse for grid messages (#18940)

Allow internal types to support a `Recycler` interface, which will allow for sharing of common types across handlers.

This means that all `grid.MSS` (and similar) objects are shared across in a common pool instead of a per-handler pool.

Add internal request reuse of internal types. Add for safe (pointerless) types explicitly.

Only log params for internal types. Doing Sprint(obj) is just a bit too messy.

cmd/bootstrap-peer-server.go

@@ -152,10 +152,12 @@ func (client *bootstrapRESTClient) Verify(ctx context.Context, srcCfg *ServerSys
 		return nil
 	}
 
-	recvCfg, err := serverVerifyHandler.Call(ctx, client.gridConn, grid.NewMSSWith(map[string]string{}))
+	recvCfg, err := serverVerifyHandler.Call(ctx, client.gridConn, grid.NewMSS())
 	if err != nil {
 		return err
 	}
+	// We do not need the response after returning.
+	defer serverVerifyHandler.PutResponse(recvCfg)
 
 	return srcCfg.Diff(recvCfg)
 }